Relationships Bring Up Our Deepest Wounds
Trauma Bonding is where two people conspire (consciously or not) to reenact the trauma they both had, have, or compliment.
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Dr Cat Meyer
Dec 21, 20222 min read
Relationships are Not Gender Specific
Yet because of how deeply ingrained the gender associations of those two terms are in our society, it can be hard to separate.
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Dr Cat Meyer
Apr 13, 20212 min read
LOVE. Do they have a limited capacity for meeting you in intimacy?
We all have a different volume of love that we speak + different capacity for depth in intimacy. Some of us are highly expressive + open,...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 24, 20203 min read
LOVE. Polarity through a Trauma-Informed Lens. (Part 4)
Oftentimes when people talk about polarity, they refer to the energetic poles of ‘masculine’ + ‘feminine’. Not gender specific, but...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 22, 20202 min read
LOVE. Balancing Sexual Polarity with Emotional Connection for Sustainability
Part 3 of 3 LOVE. Emotional Connection. We talked about the power of polarity in sexual attraction. And this would not sustain a strong...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 22, 20202 min read
SEX. How Can We Create Sexual Chemistry without a Trauma Bond?
Part 2 of 3 How to Polarize: Remember yesterday’s post where I talked about different types of polarity? Here we talk about how you can...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Aug 5, 20203 min read
LOVE. Fear of Intimacy + Our Defense Mechanisms to Love
Are you preventing love from coming in? Discover the patterns you may be falling into.
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Dr Cat Meyer
Jun 3, 20202 min read
LOVE. How Our Perceived 'Certainty' Around Racism Is Contributing to the Problem
“I know.” Certainty is the death of growth. For if we are certain, then there’s nowhere else to go. “I know” is a sneaky little bugger,...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Mar 30, 20202 min read
LOVE. Open Loops in Conversation
COMMUNICATION. Open loops—when we are left with questions still about a particular event, person, perspective. The output of energy that...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Dec 13, 20192 min read
LOVE. The Nice Guy Phenomenon
The phenomenon of the ‘nice guy’ in dating. Very often the reality is that there are a lot of things going on in his mind that are...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Nov 4, 20192 min read
LOVE. November: #TheMonthOfExpandingPleasure
How good can we stand it? How much pleasure can we hold? The potential? Infinite. Yet our conditioning says only so much. Hitting the...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 29, 20195 min read
LOVE. I Fear I Will Never Find Love
“I fear I will never find love.” This is probably the number one fear/question I hear from men and women alike. And while I’m not a...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 29, 20195 min read
LOVE. Relationship Design
What do we imagine when we say the words “relationship” or “commitment” or “marriage”? Two individuals committing their life, sex,...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 29, 20193 min read
LOVE. Holding Space
What does it mean to “hold space,” and why has it become such a buzz word? Holding space is creating an environment with your own...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 29, 20193 min read
LOVE. The ‘Right’ Way to Keep a Guy/Girl Interested
I hear talk among friends and colleagues about their latest endeavors in dating and sex, all of whom are trying to figure out the “right”...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 29, 20194 min read
LOVE. Why do I Keep Picking the Same Type of Person?
“He’s just like all the others–distant, only texting me when he feels like it, but then he says he loves me and I just feel so good.”...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 29, 20194 min read
LOVE. Dating More Than One?
Navigating any type of relationship comes with its own unique (and not so unique) challenges. Navigating open or poly relationships are...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 28, 20195 min read
LOVE. How to Get Them to Show Up More Powerfully In the Relationship
“My man isn’t showing up for me powerfully. How can I get him to step up?” I hear this statement made so often from women who are not...
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Dr Cat Meyer
Oct 28, 20196 min read
LOVE. The Emotionally Unavailable
This article was originally published on Elephant Journal on December 1, 2016 and can be viewed here There is an appeal to potential...
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