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Trauma Bonding is where two people conspire (consciously or not) to reenact the trauma they both had, have, or compliment.

Yet because of how deeply ingrained the gender associations of those two terms are in our society, it can be hard to separate.

We all have a different volume of love that we speak + different capacity for depth in intimacy. Some of us are highly expressive + open,...

Oftentimes when people talk about polarity, they refer to the energetic poles of ‘masculine’ + ‘feminine’. Not gender specific, but...

Part 3 of 3 LOVE. Emotional Connection. We talked about the power of polarity in sexual attraction. And this would not sustain a strong...

Part 2 of 3 How to Polarize: Remember yesterday’s post where I talked about different types of polarity? Here we talk about how you can...

Are you preventing love from coming in? Discover the patterns you may be falling into.

“I know.” Certainty is the death of growth. For if we are certain, then there’s nowhere else to go. “I know” is a sneaky little bugger,...

COMMUNICATION. Open loops—when we are left with questions still about a particular event, person, perspective. The output of energy that...

The phenomenon of the ‘nice guy’ in dating. Very often the reality is that there are a lot of things going on in his mind that are...

How good can we stand it? How much pleasure can we hold? The potential? Infinite. Yet our conditioning says only so much. Hitting the...

“I fear I will never find love.” This is probably the number one fear/question I hear from men and women alike. And while I’m not a...

What do we imagine when we say the words “relationship” or “commitment” or “marriage”? Two individuals committing their life, sex,...

What does it mean to “hold space,” and why has it become such a buzz word? Holding space is creating an environment with your own...

I hear talk among friends and colleagues about their latest endeavors in dating and sex, all of whom are trying to figure out the “right”...

“He’s just like all the others–distant, only texting me when he feels like it, but then he says he loves me and I just feel so good.”...

Navigating any type of relationship comes with its own unique (and not so unique) challenges. Navigating open or poly relationships are...

“My man isn’t showing up for me powerfully. How can I get him to step up?” I hear this statement made so often from women who are not...

This article was originally published on Elephant Journal on December 1, 2016 and can be viewed here There is an appeal to potential...